For most people qualities like honesty, integrity and religious beliefs are values.
🔹They are not your PERSONAL values, since these values have been imposed on you through society idealism or external authority, who project the way 👉“you should”, “you ought to” or “you have to” behave, to be socially acceptable.
Examples of “social Idealism” statements:
▪️You should be kind and honest.
▪️You have to be a giver, rather than a taker.
▪️You ought to put your in-laws and family needs above yours.
▪️You should be educated, employed, or married.
🔹The difference is PERSONAL values are your internal compass🧭 or your true north star⭐ pointing towards activities, people, and places that make you feel fulfilled and nourished. These personal values are as unique to you as your fingerprints 🖐🏻and your 👁️🗨️retinal pattern.
No outside authority like a parent, teacher, religious figure can define your values.
Only you can look inside your heart and soul❤️ and discover, what is truly most important to you and what you would want to be known for.
For example :
▪️If you value spending time, caring, and nurturing for your family, then you would want to be known as an amazing mother👨👩👧👦 or a homemaker.
▪️If You may enjoy 🎨 painting or playing basketball⛹️ , you would want to be known as a painter/ basketball player.
▪️If you enjoy establishing a business or 💰creating wealth, then you would want to be known as an entrepreneur or a wealth builder.
Therefore, our identity, decisions, and actions are all based on our values or things most important to us.
“We all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are and who we are is an expression of our highest priorities”
Dr. John Demartini