In my 20 years of marriage, I can find several instances where I have put my husband, kids and my in-laws\u2019 needs above mine. Did it make me happy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To tell you honestly, I built resentment towards them, anger towards myself and felt like a victim, who had given so much with no returns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes I found myself keeping a balance sheet consciously or unconsciously, of the give and take happening in the relationships. I can confidently say, it\u2019s not a good place to be in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I felt trapped in the cycle of self-defeating thoughts, guilt and shame for expecting others to appreciate and acknowledge my self-sacrifice. To overcome this, I found myself giving into others\u2019 demands, thinking it would be a place of nirvana. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In reality, grudgingly accepting and tolerating every ones preferences and sacrificing to their desires, left me with a realization that: <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cSacrifice breeds resentment.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n What I learnt from my experiences and my Mentor Dr. John DeMartini is that unwilling sacrifice, tolerance or acceptance isn\u2019t required for fulfilling relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The key to a happily married life is an open-hearted appreciation for others and love for who we and our partners are. When we allow each other to express themselves freely without any judgements, helping our partners find what they love most, in turn, helps you achieve what we love most.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In my 20 years of marriage, I can find several instances where I have put my husband, kids and my in-laws\u2019 needs above mine. Did it make me happy? To tell you honestly, I built resentment towards them, anger towards myself and felt like a victim, who had given so much with no returns. Sometimes […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":453,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"\n In my 20 years of marriage, I can find several instances where I have put my husband, kids and my in-laws\u2019 needs above mine. Did it make me happy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n To tell you honestly, I built resentment towards them, anger towards myself and felt like a victim, who had given so much with no returns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes I found myself keeping a balance sheet consciously or unconsciously, of the give and take happening in the relationships. I can confidently say, it\u2019s not a good place to be in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I felt trapped in the cycle of self-defeating thoughts, guilt and shame for expecting others to appreciate and acknowledge my self-sacrifice. To overcome this, I found myself giving into others\u2019 demands, thinking it would be a place of nirvana. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In reality, grudgingly accepting and tolerating every ones preferences and sacrificing to their desires, left me with a realization that: <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSacrifice breeds resentment.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n What I learnt from my experiences and my Mentor Dr. John DeMartini is that unwilling sacrifice, tolerance or acceptance isn\u2019t required for fulfilling relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The key to a happily married life is an open-hearted appreciation for others and love for who we and our partners are. When we allow each other to express themselves freely without any judgements, helping our partners find what they love most, in turn, helps you achieve what we love most.<\/p>\n","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-431","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/savneetbedi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/rsz_myth.png?fit=488%2C325&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/431","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=431"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/431\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/453"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=431"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=431"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/savneetbedi.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=431"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}